About

Available now: What If We Never Get Married, A Happily Ever Answer, a new book by Shani Silver.

Hello, I’m Shani Silver. I’m a writer and podcaster. I care about living authentically, reframing shaming narratives that we’ve been absorbing since childhood, and challenging limiting beliefs and norms that keep us small. If you read my work and think, “wow, I never thought about it that way,” that’s pretty much my brand.

I’ve lived in Fort Worth, Austin, Los Angles, Chicago, Philadelphia, Brooklyn, and New Orleans. I write two Substacks, Cheaper Than Therapy, a newsletter for 80s babies, and Hey Shani, a toxic positivity-free advice column for singlehood support. Both publish once per week.

I am the host of A Single Serving Podcast, which launched in 2019, and I’m the author of A Single Revolution: Don’t look for a match. Light one. It’s a book that’s changing the narrative around being single, and helping single women reframe singlehood to feel better about this incredibly valuable time in our lives.

My newest book, What If We Never Get Married: A Happily Ever Answer, asks single women to face fears and concerns about being single “forever,” in order to reframe mindsets and shift perspectives to live happily single, for as long as single happens to last.

I believe single women get to care about more than dating, but dating content is all that ever seems to be made for us. I was tired of being treated like I’m unfinished, as if I’m somehow lower in status than people in couples. In modern dating culture, single women have society’s single shaming on one side, and a punishing dating culture on the other. We’re stuck in the middle, and my work is designed as a way out that doesn’t require “finding someone” first. I look forward to being in a wonderful relationship, I just refuse to be miserable in the meantime.

My recent radio and podcast appearances are on my Appearances & Press page. You can find all the ways we can work together here.

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