About

Hello, I’m Shani Silver. I’m a writer and content creator. I care about living authentically, reframing shaming narratives that we’ve been absorbing since childhood, and challenging limiting beliefs and norms that keep us small. If you read my work and think, “wow, I never thought about it that way,” that’s pretty much my brand.

I’ve lived in Fort Worth, Austin, Los Angles, Chicago, Philadelphia, Brooklyn, and New Orleans. I write two Substacks, Cheaper Than Therapy, a newsletter for 80s babies, and Hey Shani, a toxic positivity-free advice column for singlehood support. Both publish once per week.

For six years I was the creator and host of A Single Serving Podcast, and I’m the author of A Single Revolution: Don’t look for a match. Light one. It’s a book that’s changing the narrative around being single, and helping single women reframe singlehood to feel better about this incredibly valuable time in our lives.

I’m not an advocate for singlehood. I’m an advocate for single women FEELING GOOD WHILE SINGLE. There is a difference.

I believe single women get to care about more than dating, but dating content is all that ever seems to be made for us. I was tired of being treated like I’m unfinished, as if I’m somehow lower in status than people in couples. In modern dating culture, single women have society’s single shaming on one side, and a punishing dating culture on the other. We’re stuck in the middle, and my work is designed as a way out that doesn’t require “finding someone” first. I look forward to being in a wonderful relationship, I just refuse to be miserable in the meantime.

My recent radio and podcast appearances are on my Appearances & Press page. You can find all the ways we can work together here.

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